

Akka Mahadevi, Nilima Sheikh (b.1945)
Weddings have always been a sore spot for me financially. As someone who lives on a relatively modest income, the constant barrage of wedding invitations, bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and registry gifts creates a major strain on my budget. But I just can't seem to say no, even when I know I can't really afford it.
Part of it is the social pressure - I don't want to be seen as the stingy, unsupportive friend who skips out on these important life events. There's also the fear of damaging valuable relationships if I decline. And let's be honest, FOMO plays a big role too. I don't want to miss out on the fun and camaraderie of these celebratory occasions.
So I end up going into debt, dipping into my savings, or skimping on my own needs just to keep up with the constant wedding-related expenses. It's not sustainable, and it's left me feeling resentful and stressed. I'll be paying off my credit card balance for months after each wedding season.
I know I need to set better boundaries, to be more selective about which events I attend and how much I'm willing to spend. But it's so hard. These are my friends and family members, and I want to be there for them on their big day. I don't want to be the wet blanket or the party pooper.
Weddings have always been a sore spot for me financially. As someone who lives on a relatively modest income, the constant barrage of wedding invitations, bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and registry gifts creates a major strain on my budget. But I just can't seem to say no, even when I know I can't really afford it.
Part of it is the social pressure - I don't want to be seen as the stingy, unsupportive friend who skips out on these important life events. There's also the fear of damaging valuable relationships if I decline. And let's be honest, FOMO plays a big role too. I don't want to miss out on the fun and camaraderie of these celebratory occasions.
So I end up going into debt, dipping into my savings, or skimping on my own needs just to keep up with the constant wedding-related expenses. It's not sustainable, and it's left me feeling resentful and stressed. I'll be paying off my credit card balance for months after each wedding season.
I know I need to set better boundaries, to be more selective about which events I attend and how much I'm willing to spend. But it's so hard. These are my friends and family members, and I want to be there for them on their big day. I don't want to be the wet blanket or the party pooper.
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