Dear Independent Woman

First of all, let me just say: You quit your job to chase a dream? That’s no small thing. While most people are busy clutching the illusion of security with white-knuckled fear, you leaped into the unknown. That makes you brave. Foolhardy? Maybe. But also brave. Let’s not lose sight of that.

Now, let’s dig into this messy soup of self-doubt, comparison, and financial anxiety you’ve been simmering in. Spoiler alert: You’re not alone in this kitchen. Many Indian entrepreneurs, from chaiwallahs to tech founders, started out exactly where you are—full of ambition, but light on resources and certainty.

The Myth of the "Proper Job" ah, the infamous “proper job” narrative. Let’s call it what it is: societal pressure masquerading as concern. In India, where everyone from your next-door neighbor to your second cousin thrice removed has an opinion on your life, it's easy to feel like you’re falling behind. After all, your peers with steady salaries, annual appraisals, and Instagram-worthy office perks seem to be winning, right?

Wrong. Here’s the truth: A "proper job" isn’t a ticket to happiness. It’s just one version of success. And you’ve chosen another—a version where you get to build something uniquely yours. Sure, the path is riddled with potholes, but it’s also filled with opportunities to grow in ways a 9-to-5 could never offer.

Let’s talk about those younger friends with shiny paychecks and LinkedIn-worthy titles. Every time you compare yourself to them, you’re stacking their highlight reel against your behind-the-scenes struggles. It’s not a fair fight. Remember, people only show you the success, not the stress.

Instead of comparing your journey to theirs, compare yourself to… well, yourself. Are you learning? Growing? Taking steps toward your goal? That’s what matters. As the saying goes, “You’re not late; you’re on your own time zone.”

Your financial anxiety is valid—money has a way of keeping us awake at night, especially in the early stages of entrepreneurship. But here’s the good news: You can tackle this one step at a time.

• Start Small: Don’t aim to conquer the world in one go. Start with a small, manageable goal for your business—a few clients, a set revenue target, or even breaking even. Success breeds confidence, and confidence will quiet your anxiety.

• Diversify Your Income: If your business isn’t earning yet, consider a part-time gig or freelancing to cover the basics. There’s no shame in a safety net—it’s smart, not weak.

• Set Milestones: Having a goal is great, but without a plan, it’s just a wish. Break your big dream into bite-sized chunks. Celebrate each win, no matter how small.

Let’s address the guilt of leaning on your parents or borrowing from your brother. In India, family support is often seen as both a blessing and a burden. But guess what? Your family likely believes in you, even when you’re doubting yourself. That's a vote of confidence more valuable than any venture capital pitch. Accept their help with gratitude, and promise yourself (and them) that you’ll pay it forward—if not in money, then in kindness, care, or advice.

Anxiety loves vagueness. The more unclear your finances and goals are, the more room anxiety has to spiral. So:

• Get Specific: Write down your financial fears. Then, brainstorm practical solutions for each one.

• Practice Gratitude: Every day, list three things you’re thankful for—your health, your family’s support, your ambition. Gratitude can ground you when anxiety takes flight.

• Find Your Tribe: Seek out other entrepreneurs or small business owners. In India, platforms like LinkedIn, Instagram, and local meetups are great for connecting. Surrounding yourself with people who get it can do wonders for your morale.

Starting something from scratch is inherently messy. The road is long, and some days you’ll feel like you’re sprinting backward. But let me remind you of something beautiful: You’re building a life that’s yours. That’s rare. That’s precious.

Will you make mistakes? Absolutely. Will you sometimes want to throw in the towel? Probably. But every stumble is a step forward. You’re learning skills, resilience, and grit—things no cushy corporate job can teach you.

Take a deep breath. Focus on what you can control right now. Be kind to yourself—you’re doing something most people are too afraid to try. And when that little voice of self-doubt whispers, “You’re not enough,” answer back, “I’m just getting started.”

The journey you’re on? It’s hard, but it’s worth it. And one day, when you look back on this moment, you’ll marvel at how far you’ve come. Until then, keep showing up. Keep trying. And remember: Your worth isn’t measured in income; it’s measured in the courage it takes to chase your dreams.

Yours in grit and grace,

Maddy